Amendment

It was put to me that a view I expressed in my last post went a bit too far. I'll admit to letting my temper flare and get the better of me and in doing so I said something rather rude and disrespectful. I would like to amend that now.

My previous post had absolutely EVERYTHING to do with the individual I referred to and the FB status post that so offended me. In explaining my thoughts I seemed to hold those that are willing to pay the big bucks for wedding photos in contempt and that's not the message I meant to convey. I also did not mean to downplay the fact that there are photographers out there with remarkable talent that give their all to the job. I hadn't previously considered how difficult and stressful that job can be. I don't think as deeply about photography as some (it is not one of my passions) but I'm oh-so-glad people with that passion are out there documenting family histories and working so hard to preserve precious memories.

I'm bothered by the fact that jerks exist was, I guess, my ultimate point. And I'm aggravated by the fact that everything seems to cost so much and that there is so much pressure for people just starting out in life to pay HUGE amounts of money on one day of their lives... it's lovely but not absolutely necessary (even though so many people would have you believe otherwise).

SHUT UP

Wow! It has been quite a while since I last posted something here. I'm only posting here now because I'm feeling a bit fired up about something on facebook and any status update I post will be too obviously directed toward the stupid, selfish, money-hungry idiot in question. This post might be, too, I suppose, but I doubt this particular idiot is aware of my blog so I'll risk it.

WEDDING PHOTOS ARE NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF A WEDDING. I know that is a SHOCKING statement to make (and particularly blasphemous to that idiot) but it is also absolutely true. We love our wedding photos. They provide us with pretty documentation of the happiest day of our lives (thus far) and look quite nice framed on our walls. We also really loved paying $500 for them. Granted, we were able to get a wonderful break in price from the family friend who took them for us, and if we had been unable to convince a friend to take them for us we might've paid more for them. I would like you to know, however, that $3500 for pictures is completely outrageous. Why is it OK to charge so much for photos? Because there are stupid idiots out there that will pay for them! The same stupid idiots that are spending upwards of $2000 for a dress that they wear for a day. "I just want my wedding to be perfect." What a nice thought. But what is 'perfect'?

Obviously what is important to me is not important to others so here my temper is waning as I'm able to rationalize spending such out-frickin-rageous amounts of money on one day of your life by considering the perspective of others. If the money's there, spend it. Right? I just can't get on board with that kind of thinking. Talk about being wasteful and bratty.

A perfect wedding day for me (which I've already experienced) is one in which I'm married at the end. That's it. The whole point of all of the planning and rigmarole is so two people can be married in the end. Who gives two craps about flowers and whether or not there are twinkly lights or if the train of the stupid wedding dress sits just right while you're saying your vows?! Obviously, some people do. The whole point of the day for me, however, was to marry my best friend. I loved having our family and friends present for that and we had a kick-ass party afterward, too. Some things went wrong (NOTHING is perfect) but we didn't care because we were too busy enjoying all of the love that was there for us to notice that the favors weren't put out on the tables quite right, etc.

It's hard not to get all wrapped up in the minutia of wedding planning (especially since there are people out there that want one to focus only on minutia (and they get paid to do so)) but what is really important? I wish more people focused on that! We did not have $15,000 to blow on a wedding. And, honestly, even if we had we would've been just as conservative with our spending because that's just who we are. I know that some people just love to spend money and don't see anything wrong with going hog-wild for a wedding. But, like I said, that's not the point.

We ended up with something like 1,200 pictures of our ceremony and reception between our official photographer, the mom of one of my bridesmaids (who loves taking pictures), and all of the other guests that took a bazillion and a half and posted them up on facebook. Our wedding was super well-documented and didn't cost us an arm and a leg. Plus things were captured that our official photographer would never have thought to or been able to snap since she didn't know all of our guests and did not stay for the entire reception.

I hate reading a facebook status chastising someone for wanting to spend $250 on wedding photos. Actually the direct quote from the status went like this:

man: "we just need someone to snap a few shots for us at our wedding. we spoke to another photographer who offered to do it for $250."

me: "so, you should probably hire him."

enjoy your crappy wedding photos!

Why exactly are those photos guaranteed to be crappy? Because they're not taken by you (with your infinite "talent") or because they don't cost $3500?! Quit being a frickin' jerk.

P.S. Of course, any photographer has the right to say "Sorry, we cost more than your budget. Good luck!" But that is not how I read the above status. Am I wrong?